Appreciate them for what they are

I cannot appreciate a man for what he is not. All of us have faults, and I cannot rejoice in any man's faults (least of all my own). I can, however, appreciate what he is. If he is not entirely responsible, I may regret that and it may cloud my opinion of him. However, if despite his negligence he is very tenderhearted, then I still can be thankful for that and rejoice to see it in him. I must appreciate a man for what he is, not for what he is not.